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The Only Thing to Fear

What prevents us from engaging in meaningful, honest and open discourse about deeply held opinions? What do we fear in this regard?

Fear is not only a motivator terrorists employ. Many of us are told when young that we must be (overly) concerned with what others think of us, worried about their opinion ... to fear for one's reputation.

We are taught the shame of being seen as "inappropriate," of standing out as an anomaly in the otherwise homogenous group. I think we can add to this now, as privacy has been taken and given away, and as civil liberties are being removed, that many say less and less for fear they might recorded, overheard, that rumor might spread calling investigative attention ... and that our well-being could be jeopardized purely on the basis of what we read, who we speak with or what our stated positions may be.

The former fear I think of as "What would the neighbors say?" This fear is a powerful motivator towards a kind of mediocrity of existence, and while it has it's good points (I don't want my urban neighbor to keep chickens in her apartment), we tend to work too hard on maintaining images of normalcy at the expense of creativity. This fear is spirit killing to greater or lesser degrees.

The second fear, of some sort of repressive authorities, may prove to be a less neurotic concern. If, however, we can not speak honestly in the country that touts freedom, if we must fear some sort of punishment, direct or covert, from taking stands on issues that are deeply significant to ourselves, then this is not the America I was taught to love ... it has been sold to people I do not respect and have no desire to serve. As a father of two great kids, I have fielded the stories having to do, in essence, with the pressure to blend in with the group.

My daughter clearly has felt that appearing to be too smart will reduce her attractiveness in general and my son believes to some extent that wearing Abercrombie shirts will give him a certain stamp in some sort of social club. These are normal experiences many of us have had and so, may be easy to brush off. Yet, I remember the sort of shame in having convinced my parents to buy a cheap version of "the right sort of" boots in high school (this was the 70s, Frye harness boots) and being ridiculed in my knockoffs.

My family could not afford Fryes. Much more destructive — how many bright girls have been persuaded to dumb down, to put their beautiful lights of intelligence under the proverbial bushel? How much has been lost to these people and how much has been lost to the world? Even small fears may evolve into spirit killing. Blogs are relatively new portals, a sort of pub counter of the noosphere where we gather to speak our minds.

As in pubs, a (virtual) community evolves of the bloggers, the regulars (respondents) and, we assume, ten times as many who remain in the shadows, either believing their two cents are worthless than the others two pennies or, afraid to make their opinions known.

By the way, it's not only the silent who are afraid to make their opinions known. Or, I shoud put that another way ... while their are many who like to state their opinions — there are many who simultaneously do not want it known that these are their opinions. Consequently many take on "noms de blog," fake names, nicknames, partial names, etc. They are afraid, maybe rightly so, that their boss might run across the blog, that people will figure out who they are, that the person they are arguing with might look them up and worse, might track them down. Hence, many boldly throw out their true thoughts, but from behind bushes or walls.

Retribution is probably an archetypal fear. The fear of punishment or retribution is the effect underpinning all law. If you don't obey X then Y will happen. Y is always a negative value. Without negative consequences put in place by our cultures, for a fact, rules would be broadly ignored as humans applied their situational and varied ethics. However, the extrapolation or perversion perhaps of this set of penalties is it's repressive use by any government or power in preventing a populace or a person, from following and making known their beliefs (assuming they aren't in the realm of hate crimes, extreme perversity, etc).

There are many defined fears that play into both categories of fear I have mentioned. Look at this selection, an ABC of fears that may factor in one's decision to refrain from stating opinions publicly or from engaging in honest and open public discourse.

  • Allodoxaphobia: Fear of opinions.
  • Catagelophobia: Fear of being ridiculed.
  • Doxophobia: Fear of expressing opinions or of receiving praise.
  • Eleutherophobia: Fear of freedom.
  •  Epistemophobia: Fear of knowledge.
  • Eremophobia: Fear of being oneself or of loneliness.
  • Gelotophobia: Fear of being laughed at.
  • Glossophobia: Fear of speaking in public or of trying to speak. Hamartophobia: Fear of sinning.
  • Heresyphobia or Hereiophobia: Fear of challenges to official doctrine or of radical deviation.
  • Ideophobia: Fear of ideas.
  • Katagelophobia: Fear of ridicule.
  • Mastigophobia: Fear of punishment.
  • Neophobia: Fear of anything new.
  • Ophthalmophobia: Fear of being stared at.
  • Phronemophobia: Fear of thinking.
  • Poinephobia: Fear of punishment
  • Prosophobia: Fear of progress.
  • Psychophobia: Fear of mind.
  • Rhabdophobia: Fear of being severely punished or beaten by a rod, or of being severely criticized.
  • Social Phobia: Fear of being evaluated negatively in social situations.
  • Sociophobia: Fear of society or people in general.
  • Sophophobia: Fear of learning.
  • Tropophobia: Fear of moving or making changes.
  • Verbophobia: Fear of words.

I found the selection enlightening, a variety of angles on the theme of what promotes silence and hiding, on the one hand, or an effort to at least promoteboneself as one of the herd. Your thoughts are invited, openly or from whatever distance you prefer. Are you afraid? Do we have good reason to fear? What should we fear if anything? What prevents you from publicly speaking your mind?

And yes ... there is a fear of fear: Phobophobia. Widely promoted by a man named Roosevelt in an inaugural speech ... it is germane in this discussion to the extent we may avoid any situation or engagenet where fear might raise it's frightening head.

Brian Carlson September 10, 2012 at 09:57 pm
Bren, there is a new sort of "privacy," perhaps. You want to make your ideas and opinions known, and write them clearly on this virtual wall. At the same time you do not want it known that these are YOUR opinions. Like scrawling a statement on the side of a bridge... Or is this different?
Brian Carlson September 10, 2012 at 10:07 pm
Thanks Lyle. I am as interested, if not more so, in the possibility that we fear some sort of larger consequence. In earlier blogs I mentioned civil liberties dwindling, the possibility of becoming a political prisoner without Habeus corpus and you have talked about freedom of speech and related topics. We hear talk that the government, even local, may be monitoring our Internet use, i not listening in to conversations or reading emails. Certainly companies are known to do so with employees emails. Is fear being promulgated to control us, or is the effort to control setting up realities, including invasion of privacy, that are very seriously dangerous (read:to be feared)?
In the post 9/11 era, quickly we saw this queing to determine who was with us or against us. Laws changed. Rather than uniting...I think many isolated further. Osama wasn't the only one holing up in a cave. To what extent are we driven by fears?
Lyle Ruble September 10, 2012 at 10:31 pm
@Brian Carlson....Something about fear has to do with the uncertainty of the future. This is why so many remain in terrible situations because of the fear of change and the potential outcomes. We constantly view the world through our perceptual lens that validates our beliefs and reality. As long as our view is validated we are not threatened by the ultimate fear: chaos or uncontrolled change.
Those of us with life experience know what to honestly fear. Fear of injustice, loss of civil rights, loss of freedom of choice, loss of community, and loss of free speech top the list. The fear of death is far from the top of our fear list and more people fear losing their health. People seeking power and control attempt to utilize fear to manipulate people into voluntarily giving up their basic rights and handing control over to others. In some instances fear can be a healthy thing if it doesn't become all consuming. I encourage you to keep writing and challenging, opening the window on truth.
Brian Carlson September 11, 2012 at 12:52 am
Yes Lyle.... I like the point about viewing the world hoping to validate our beliefs and idea of reality. Like scientists looking for a particular outcome, we affect the experiment and skew the results. This can happen anywhere on the spectrum of views and beliefs of course... So a key, to my mind, is perpetual inquiry. That's what I try to do here....question and listen to answers. Glad you participate.....
Richard Head September 11, 2012 at 09:14 am
"Are you afraid? Do we have good reason to fear? What should we fear if anything? What prevents you from publicly speaking your mind?"
Should Sheep fear Wolves? What about the Viper? Society is ruled by Sociopaths and Psychopaths - the first step would be to eliminate them. Prisons are not only full of guilty men - but also the innocent. Fear needs to be controlled, but it is also necessary to protect oneself - it is a useful friend.
Brian Carlson September 11, 2012 at 11:13 am
Do others here agree with Richard about psychopaths and sociopaths ruling society? Certainly it's easy to make a case when we speak about Saddam, or Assad or the junta and it's killers during Argentinas Dirty War. State terrorism is literally a red flag. What about our leaders in general? If a Kissinger gives the green light to state terrorism in Argentina, is he as bad as the people he encourages? Is he a perpetrator...a war criminal? Or if you attack a sovereign nation on false pretexts without a formal declaration of war and a couple hundred thousand civilians die...are you deranged? We are lining up to attack Iran on the same WMD charge in "preventative" campaign that is very likely to roll into a full blown middle east war. Is this an insane act? If so, we should not keep electing people who engage in these practices. We should protest their crimes, pursue prosecution and march for justice. Will we? Or are we afraid of people who we know can arrest anyone and hold them without trial? What are your thoughts?
Howard Vrankin September 11, 2012 at 12:33 pm
I can't totally agree with Richard's gross generalization. I certainly appreciate and agree with Brian's original post. On the subject of fear, shame, and other ways we sometimes allow ourselves to be manipulated, many volumes have been written. I believe its in our genes - like within the wolf pack or mountain gorilla family. We must behave in certain pack ways in order to survive. Otherwise our perceived or actual enemies may do us in. The alphas and silverbacks get the final vote. But can there be another way, as we peer over the brink of our mutual destruction at this time in our relatively short history? Will earth allow us to get along without subjugating? Only time will tell. For one, I'm trying to follow the likes of Jesus, Lao Tsu, Gandhi and others who took the risk of positions that were more expansive and tolerant but personally dangerous. I don't know how all of this will play out, frankly...
Lyle Ruble September 11, 2012 at 02:32 pm
@Brian Carlson....I don't agree that society is ruled by people with anti-personality disorders. What I will agree to is that the plutocracy controls the elected oligarchs who may attract an inordinate number of people with anti-personality and narcissistic personality disorders. Manipulation, power and wealth are the currencies of the plutocracy. Societal rules only apply to those who are not a part of the plutocracy/oligarchy. Therefore; lying, misrepresentation, covertness and manipulation are the tools of control. The oligarch always attempts to paint a picture that is worse if we reject them in favor of a different direction. Classic manipulation.
Of all the professions and vocations, it would appear that Wall Street and the financial industry attracts the majority of those infected with anti-social personality disorders. Those who don't fear Wall Street and Wall Street types, will soon be separated from their earnings and freedoms.
Brian Carlson September 11, 2012 at 02:32 pm
Howard.... I appreciate your thoughts and decision. I think that, in this case, if we decide how to respond based on a need to see sweeping change in our day, we will decide to let the "silverbacks" have their way. Perhaps, however, if more and more of us work with the model of great one's such as those you mention, we will educate ourselves and future generations to redraw the meaning of "power," "security," "protection," and eventually "liberty," "freedom," etc.
It will require risk and courage. History has verified that countless times. Yet, it is encouraging that there are many many stories of people, individually or in relatively small groups, who took such stands and persisted in living their lives for values they held deeply. Eventually more people took note. Significant change occurred. I think the goal is to live in the process in this matter action in spite of fear. As many people are saying...fear is innate and has a useful function. At the same time Fear can become a Dictator, literally or figuratively, demanding silence and subjection. We have to chose how we will respond when it's orders are made.
Dave Koven September 11, 2012 at 02:35 pm
What is the word for someone who fears talking about himself in the first person?
Brian...excellent article. Many people give up expressing themselves because they know it will be like banging your head on a brick wall. Some people are so entrenched in their thinking that they are unable to have the ability to look at the other side of an argument objectively, to see if there is any wisdom, at all, in it. These poor, simple souls limit their lives/politics in huge ways that they will never understand. They become one- dimensional intellectual cripples. Who knows from where or who the next exciting idea will come? It could be from a liberal or a conservative. If your political views are stuck like a broken record, you will miss out.
Brian Carlson September 11, 2012 at 02:54 pm
Lyle, Very well put and much more specific to the dynamics involved. Thanks.
Dave... Good question. I don't know the answer. I appreciate the main thought you send as well. So much of the discussion on the street is a parroting of yesterday's attack ad spin. The attack ads suggest, ignite and fan fears in the type of people who are content to let others do their thinking or to those trusting souls who never question the real motivations of rumor fabricators and mongers, taking them instead at their expressed intentions. Also as Lyle points out, we look for information or points of view that confirm "our" ideas about reality. Unfortunately, if our minds have already hardened, taking in new ideas to add to the old is like trying to add some more fresh concrete to a preexisting structure. It just won't stick well.
Bren September 11, 2012 at 03:00 pm
Brian, I like your graffito analogy very much. This is an unexpected haven for critique. Even if it is not always constructive. Challenge inspires growth.
Dave Koven September 11, 2012 at 03:02 pm
So do we.
Bob McBride September 11, 2012 at 03:15 pm
I fear an attack of diarrhea while on a road trip through long stretches of sparsely populated territory, or in the midst of freeway congestion. Other than that, I can handle pretty much anything. Got one for that?
Brian Carlson September 11, 2012 at 03:54 pm
Bren, Not trying to get on your case... It's a question. I am trying to understand this new form of community interaction and just look for analogies. Graffiti can be effective... Reportedly the insides of the blocks forming Egyptian tombs have jokes about the Pharaoh, chiseled in by workers.
Brian Carlson September 11, 2012 at 03:55 pm
Bob, one word. Imodium.
Bob McBride September 11, 2012 at 03:57 pm
I will keep that in mind. Thanks, Brian.
Neil A Rubble September 11, 2012 at 04:56 pm
I have a fear that people will spend way too much time blogging and less time in the real world.
Bren September 11, 2012 at 05:05 pm
I believe there is a time and a place for all things.
For now, I encountered Patch during research and was intrigued by the opportunity to engage with individuals of other political persuasions, free of the shackles of discretion and good manners that force our real-life encounters into innocuity.
mau September 11, 2012 at 06:59 pm
Imodium does not work for the day after jalapeno peppers. I can attest to that.
Neil A Rubble September 11, 2012 at 07:11 pm
I also have a fear that the current chick I'm banging isn't over 18, even though she swears she is. We just take their word for it?
Bob McBride September 11, 2012 at 07:11 pm
i will make note of that as well. Thanks, mau.
Greg September 11, 2012 at 07:54 pm
Rename the blog "phobophobia, the way to go".
Lyle Ruble September 11, 2012 at 09:21 pm
@Neil A...Didn't you get the message that the real world has moved to a cyber reality?
Lyle Ruble September 11, 2012 at 09:22 pm
@Neil A.... If this is a real concern, then I would suggest cougars; no doubt about age and they are always helpful.
H.E. Pennypacker September 12, 2012 at 01:44 pm
One winter a Farmer found a Snake stiff and frozen with cold. He had compassion on it, and taking it up, placed it in his bosom. The Snake was quickly revived by the warmth, and resuming its natural instincts, bit its benefactor, inflicting on him a mortal wound. "Oh," cried the Farmer with his last breath, "I am rightly served for pitying a scoundrel."
Brian Carlson September 12, 2012 at 08:32 pm
That's a nice tale and like most, has some sensible application. I think the challenge with tales and maxims is we often collect those that reinforce what we decided to do prior in any case. The same may be said of Bible verses, sutras and surrahs. We know that we need to be compassionate and that we need compassion, or have needed it.
mau September 12, 2012 at 09:07 pm
As my son often tells his father when they are working on a project together "you are over-thinking it".
Brian Carlson September 13, 2012 at 12:32 am
This is what professors do.
$$andSense September 13, 2012 at 01:47 am
Don't forget hoplophobia. Lot's of hoplophobics around, I have been told.

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